Starting a new job can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. Having changed teaching positions at four different school districts, I know how it can be stressful.

And, amidst the whirlwind of new responsibilities and learning curves, one crucial aspect often gets overlooked: building positive relationships with your new coworkers. If there is one thing that I have learned it is that it is important to find the right balance between showcasing your skills and integrating seamlessly into the team. Here are some practical tips to ensure you don’t unintentionally annoy your new coworkers.

Be Approachable and Open-Minded

The first step in building a positive relationships with your new coworkers is to be approachable. Smile, make eye contact, and use open body language to show that you’re receptive to interactions. Approachability paves the way for meaningful conversations and helps break the ice.

Show Genuine Interest

Take time to get to know your coworkers. Engage in casual conversations, inquire about their roles, and listen attentively. Showing genuine interest in their experiences and perspectives not only helps build rapport but also contributes to a collaborative work environment.

Respect Personal Space

Don’t overstep! While it’s important to be friendly, remember to respect personal space. Avoid hovering around coworkers’ workstations or invading their privacy. Recognize that everyone has their rhythm and preferences for interaction.

There is nothing that annoys me more than when a new hire decided to give me unwanted advice or ask intrusive personal questions. I recently had a new coworker invite herself to make judgements about my work performance present and past. She proceeded to criticize my methods of doing things, and she was determined to show me that her way was the best way. I sincerely don’t think she meant any harm, but it was all irritating. I developed an immediate dislike for her. Thankfully, through the course of the school year, we got to know each other better. And, we developed a cherished friendship.

In a nutshell, don’t invade your new coworkers personal space. Be respectful when taking on a new job. Allow yourself to slowly blend into the workplace culture.

Avoid Spying on Coworkers

Respect for privacy is paramount when building a positive relationship with your new coworkers. Avoid the temptation to snoop around or eavesdrop on conversations.

This is one of my pet peeves. I don’t like nosey coworkers, or those who like to eavesdrop then go snitch to the boss. Trust is the foundation of any healthy workplace, and spying on coworkers erodes that trust. So, when you start a new position, don’t spy on your new teammates. If you overhear any conversations, let them go in one ear and out the other one unless it is something that will adversely affect the team.

Refrain from Tattling

No one likes a tattle-tell. This is similar to spying. Tattling or reporting minor issues to supervisors might create unnecessary tension. Your new coworkers/fellow teachers will learn that you can’t be trusted. And, as a result, they will begin to avoid you. They will stop talking when you walk in. And, there be an underlying current of distrust. Instead, address concerns directly with the coworker involved, if appropriate. Reserve escalation for serious matters that genuinely affect the team’s productivity or well-being.

Collaborate and Communicate

Successful collaboration involves clear communication. Share your thoughts, ideas, and progress openly with your new team. But, be careful not to offend any of your new partners with insensitive comments or statements. It’s an unfortunate fact that people who are already on the team may be able to make comments about your new coworkers, other statements or j without there being

Be receptive to feedback yourself. Remember, communication is a two-way street that promotes growth for both you and your coworkers.

Offer Help and Seek Help

A collaborative spirit means being ready to offer assistance and accepting help when needed. This not only fosters teamwork but also creates a supportive atmosphere where everyone feels valued.

Lunch Breaks and Social Activities

Get in there! Participate in lunch breaks or after-work activities can help in building a positive relationship with your new coworkers. They provide opportunities to connect with your new teammates on a personal level and strengthen your relationships beyond work tasks.

Be Mindful of Noise and Space

In a shared workspace, noise levels and personal space can be sensitive issues. Keep your phone conversations and other activities that generate noise at an appropriate volume. Maintain a tidy workspace that respects the boundaries of your coworkers.

However, don’t invite yourself to clean or tidy up your new coworkers workspaces. Unless they invite you to clean their area, avoid the temptation to make comments or “help” them remove “clutter”. Many people can find this type of activity as an invasion of privacy and offensive 🙋🏽‍♀️.

Acknowledge Achievements

When your coworkers achieve milestones or complete projects, acknowledge their efforts. Celebrate their successes genuinely and extend your congratulations. This positivity reinforces the idea that you’re all working towards common goals.

Learn from Experienced Colleagues

A part of building positive relationships with your new coworkers is allowing them to teach you. Instead of rushing head first into a new position, tap into the knowledge of your more experienced colleagues. They can offer insights into the school/company culture, best practices, and the unwritten rules that aren’t covered in the employee handbook. And, trust me, there are plenty of rules that exist that aren’t covered in the employee handbook 😬.

Be Patient and Adaptable

Adjusting to a new work environment takes time. Be patient with yourself and your coworkers as you settle in. Embrace change and show adaptability.  

Starting a new job is a prime opportunity for building positive relationships with your coworkers. By being approachable, respectful, and supportive, you can foster a harmonious workplace that values collaboration and mutual growth. Remember, the key lies in building trust, open communication, and a genuine willingness to contribute to the school’s overall success. As you embark on this new journey, keep these tips in mind to ensure you make a memorable and favorable impression on your new colleagues.

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